Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Friends - why do we not have more?
We are gregarious by nature.
When we first meet people we put over how friendly we are.
When we are alone we wish we had that special friend we can share our dreams and aspirations with.
We remember the times when we were young and at school when we had that comradeship.
So why do we self sabotage our relationship with friends?
Self sabotage is the “illusions” way of staying alive.
That may seem strange when we first read it but here is the reason why.
The Ego is excited to meet others and the “illusion” likes the idea also because it gives it a chance to strengthen and show what a great “illusion” they are.
Usually we are the centre of attraction when we meet new friends.
We are treated with undivided attention.
We also give the same in return.
We communicate with each other and treat every word with acceptance.
We listen to each others story and are genuinely interested.
This carries on till eventually we stop doing the things that created the friendship.
The “illusion” demands more as usual.
We begin to introduce demands.
We start to domineer the communication.
We become moody when we are not given the attention we think we deserve.
We know we are doing it but we keep right on until the friend we once had decides they have had enough, or we are the ones that decide to end the friendship for exactly the same reason.
The self sabotaging is complete.
The easy thing to do is realise that we are not who we think we are so when the attention seeking acts begin we simply smile.
The “illusion” will be seen for what it is.
We are then in a position to recognise it in our new friend also.
When we see the signs of attention seeking we shall not judge them because we will realise that they are not in control.
They are behaving as we once did - caught in the trap of the “illusion”.
We shall explain to them what we still like them by not reacting to there insanity.
We shall not tell them they are insane - that would not be a good idea (editor).
We simply will give them an understanding smile and smile at our own emotions that may wish to retaliate.
We shall have many lifelong friends.
Life is good.
Understanding PSYCHEGNOSIS is realising who you are not and helping others to appreciate this great Universal Law.
Peace shall be the result.instantly.
No ifs no buts - It shall be so.
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